#NIESuperDad - Christopher Foo
Wednesday, 14 June 2017
Getting to know the Foo Family
I am Christopher Foo, Programme Manager (Professional Development) from the Office of Graduate Studies and Professional Learning.
My wife and I have been married for 11 years and we have two boys, aged 8 and 3. We are true blue “westerners”. Both of us work in the west, our kids goes school in the west, we stay in the west, our parents stay in the west, and our church is in the west.
I normally spend time with my children...
Playing. I am “Mr Play” at home. I’ll be chasing my children around the house playing catching. Hiding in some corner waiting to be found. “Fighting” my boys who pretend to be monster hunters. On school days, I will also be guiding my eldest in his homework.
My greatest challenge / struggle when I first became a dad was...
To figure out what I was supposed to do. Actually, I think that is still my greatest challenge now. When it comes to taking care of my boys, my level of patience just drops. As much as I love them, I feel the same level of anxiety for their well-being. This anxiety often ends up in them getting scolded. So, I am currently working on a more positive approach towards expressing my love for them.
My happiest memory / moment as a dad was...
Is when my boys randomly come and hug me. Since this don’t happen often, it is precious when it does.
If I could share a piece of advice to a first time father / fathers out there, it would be...
Stay calm and have fun! The mother has everything else under control.
How does your dad inspire you in the way you raise your children?
He has taught me to be considerate of others in what we do. This has impacted me in how I bring up my boys. Many times, especially since they are still young, their thinking is still very self-centred. I tell them how they should spare a thought for others in what they do. While the younger one does not get it know, the elder one is beginning to catch this.
Name one special “daddy” skill that you possess.
The ability to play like a child, at their level. When I play with my boys, I will go into their story and imaginative play. Many times, I will be so involved that I am as “crazy” as they are (which also means I get scolded by the mother too).
Has becoming dad change you as a person? In what way?
Definitely. Most of the changes happened in the mind. There are more considerations to every decision that I make. For example, when I get an invite to an event I will need to ask myself, do I bring the kids, will they want to go, what can they do there, is it their nap time, how do we go there, etc. In addition, I need to be more resourceful as I think of all ways and means to convince my boys to do things that they don’t like. These spills over to the workplace as my thinking processes are expanded when I ponder over issues at work.
If there is one piece of advice that you want your children to always hold dear to their hearts, what would it be?
They will always have a father who loves them, no matter what they do. It is so important for children to know that they are loved.